adversarial growth

  • Targets and goals. But none her own. A stranger to her own labour. In a race that never seems to stop, because the finishing line keeps moving. Childhood and youth are times of skill-building, then identity building too. Where fitrah comes out to be refined, polished, and directed and when it begins to take various…

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  • “I am Here For You and I Will Protect You”

    In trying to build a safe world for a child, you may gently repair the world that once broke you. It’s amazing how it works. But Allah works in wondrous ways. We were taught that to love is to endure. But what happens when we realize that to love is, in fact, to protect? To…

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  • When we speak about the fantasies of invisible children, there are several psychological mechanisms at play. An invisible child is exactly that: unseen. If you ask them what they felt like growing up, they often describe themselves as background objects: “like a piece of furniture,” “living in the shadows,” or “present, but not noticed.” Validation…

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  • It is a wonderful experience to transform from being an object into becoming a human being. It is a wonderful feeling to reach a point where you have little to lose, and to walk free of the invisible and indescribable net that once held you down with such tyrannical force. Recently, as I concluded a…

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  • Be the Bedouin

    حَدَّثَنَا زُهَيْرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عُمَرُ بْنُ يُونُسَ الْحَنَفِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا عِكْرِمَةُ بْنُ عَمَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ أَبِي طَلْحَةَ، حَدَّثَنِي أَنَسُ بْنُ مَالِكٍ، – وَهُوَ عَمُّ إِسْحَاقَ – قَالَ بَيْنَمَا نَحْنُ فِي الْمَسْجِدِ مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم إِذْ جَاءَ أَعْرَابِيٌّ فَقَامَ يَبُولُ فِي الْمَسْجِدِ فَقَالَ أَصْحَابُ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم مَهْ…

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  • Attachment Theory says a baby’s first bond wires her for love or fear– full stop. But Revelation says even the most broken wiring can be rewired with faith, purpose, and a Bond that never breaks. What if your deepest wound was actually your invitation to the strongest connection of all? When Theory Stops at the…

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  • This article is about the purposeful misdiagnosis and unnecessary medication of healthy members in a family institution by its head figures for various motives like for control, convenience, or personal gain. This sinister move is often carried out strategically over a long period of time. What makes it extremely difficult for the victim to snap…

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  • Limbs broken. Hands and faces scraped. Tears in their eyes. And very, very tired faces. Blood. Blood everywhere. I read that Gaza has the most number of child amputees. What are you doing? Why are you leaving us in this state? Our internal organs hanging out? Our hair greying before age? When you witness the…

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  • The challenges in the life of a believer, even though difficult, are timely reminders that if we are to go fully into something, it should be only for His Sake. Otherwise, it will be in vain. It will be a waste of our time, and its results will not satisfy our hearts. All desires are…

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  • Life is simply “one day for me, the next against me.” Difficult times and adversities are a part of life’s nature, just as good times and joyful moments are. This is true till there comes the end of our time here in this world and the time to move on to the eternal world; the…

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